Friday, June 16, 2006

According to Cosmo

Men equate saying "I love you" with having sex.

Does this mean everytime they're plugging it in, they LOVE that person? I mean, they may be GRATEFUL, which they dang well should, but I don't think this would be LOVE. I mean, I'm a GURL and even I don't equate it 99% of the time, so I can't fathom how a guy can.

If they mean "in a relationship" he shows his "love" through sex and thus equates it that way, that's crap. Grow a spine, open your mouth and SAY it.

Of course, being that I write romance, this could particular irk me. As writers, we work really hard to have ANYTHING, from words to actions, reflect the movement in a relationship. To that point, yes, often times if you do choose to have a sex scene, and since it does need to have relevence in the book, it can mean that, but I refuse to acknowledge that because then Cosmo is at least partially right.

Then again, I write heros with spines. That's one of the things that makes him a hero, after all.

7 comments:

Shandie said...

Great insight, Madre. But hey, if he's in a long-term relationship, then maybe Cosmo's right. But I don't know cause I'm like, eight years old. Now look at my page, yo.

-Shan

PS. You spell girl like a loser does.

Duke_of_Earle said...

...And you believe what you read in Cosmo...WHY, exactly?

John

Brenda Bradshaw said...

Shan, you can be grounded for calling me a loser. I spell it the way I want it to read. Deal. Yo.

John, of course not. Just merely passing on retarded information they had which I happen to disagree with.

Kat said...

If "love" means "2 minute sexual encounters in the middle of the night," then I'm one lucky lady.

Dwight The Troubled Teen said...

Guys aren't pre-programmed to know the shape of love when we see it.

We spend a lot of time saying, "Is this it? This must be it. YES! This is... Oh wait. No, must have been infatuation. Gone now."

I was 35 before I ever had any inkling that true love was not a total hoax perpetuated by the Hallmark company.

When it hits a guy, it's like lightning. It clarifys everything. It divides us into "before" and "after."

Not every guy gets lucky enough to be hit by lightening, though.

I am that lucky. I am the fourth prince of Serendip.

James Goodman said...

Yeah, I'm gonna have to disagree with that article. I've sexed several people I didn't love and loved several people I didn't sex.

Dorothy said...

LOL, I think Cosmo is way off base on that one!